Personal Affair

Bothered

I am a 19 year old man and I have started getting into trouble with everyone. I tend to get into fights with everyone. This is not an exception for girls. When they say something stupid I always get angry and it gets unpleasant. So I am not making any progress with girls. Every ones I like I drive away. So tell me, should I try to be more understanding and control my impulses just to keep a pleasant atmosphere? I mean, I can never be hypocritical and my frankness always leads to unpleasantness. Please tell me how should I behave, this is really bothering me.

Marriage Conundrum

I am 30 year-old woman. I got married three years ago and I have a pretty good relationship with my husband ever since. My husband’s brother is 2 years older than him and married my best friend. My friend and I were very excited we had a double marriage at the same place and were looking forward to some really happy times after our marriage. But my mother in law from the very start made it a point that she didn’t approve of either the two marriages. My husband’s family is well established and as such they have a lot of help around the house. The week after we were married my mother in law fired all of the hands except the driver and the guard because she stated that since the daughter-in-laws are home they wouldn’t need any work done by strangers in the house. Neither of our husbands obviously agreed to this and the hands were called back. But that was just the beginning. Every day she finds new complaint for one of us. Since my father-in-law is not alive we cannot even leave her in a house alone and live separately. She emotionally drained us completely. Please tell us what we can do.

Troubled

I am a  25- year-old girl and have been brought up by my parents who have had a very troubled marriage. I don’t want to go into the details of how it was for me, I can just say that I was badly affected and started to hate them. Since I didn’t have anyone to go to I started taking drugs with some friends of mine when I was only sixteen. I have also been in and out of relationships during this time. I have been to rehab many times and I guess I am okay now. I am going out with a guy now who is a year older than I am. He is very nice and witty , but the problem is that whenever I try to talk about my past he stops me and says that he doesn’t want to know about it. But I can’t really go on with him unless I openly talk about what I have been through. The life I had still troubles me now, I have nightmares from time to time. I feel very frustrated when he won’t listen to me about this and frankly I really just need to get it all out of me. Please tell me what should I do, I have very few friends, and none of my relatives like our family.

Helpless

I am a 26- year-old man studying in IBA on a part time basis. I got married two years ago with a woman I was having a relationship with. Many people said that I made a mistake by getting married because my father-in-law and other relatives of my wife did not accept our relationship. My parents also pushed me to away from them because I married without their consent. Now I am living with my wife away from my parents. I am passing my days in misery because my beloved wife is not happy with my income. She does not particularly like the fact that I am still studying. But to be an MBA is my only ambition. If I want to engage all my time to earning money, I can, but my desire to be an MBA will go in vain.  What should I do? Should I quit my studies? Please help me.

Betrayed

I am a 17- year-old girl and have just finished my A-levels in January of this year. Before I appeared for my exams , my parents promised me that I would be able to go to abroad for my higher studies  if I did my A-levels . I even appeared for my SAT and TOEFL and managed to achieve quite good scores. Now after I have finished my exams they are telling me that I am not mature enough to go and study abroad and I should dismiss such thoughts and think about getting into a good university here. When I asked them about their earlier promise they say that I can go abroad to do my masters. I feel totally betrayed and do not wish to study in any universities here. I have promised to do very badly in all the entry exams they make me give here, but that is not going to solve my problem. Tell me what should  I do?

 Puzzled

I am a 16 years old. I have been going out with a boy who is twenty years old for the past six months. My boyfriend, John had an affair with a girl before going out with me. When I asked him about her he assured me that their relationship didn’t mean anything to him and he loved me with all his heart. On his birthday last month, he was presented with a large bouquet from his ex-girl friend. When I asked him about it, he said I shouldn’t be worried about such things because he didn’t love her anymore. But a few days ago one of my friends saw him with her going somewhere on a rickshaw. When I asked him what was going on, he said since she was a classmate he was just accompanying her to a place they were invited to. I don’t want to lose him because I love him very much but at this rate I don’t think I can hold on to him much longer. What can I do?

Frustrated

I am a nineteen years old and have been married for a year under some pressure from my parents because some goons in my neighbourhood were disturbing me. But now I find life extremely difficult to handle. My sister-in-laws are always picking on me about everything I do. They will find a mistake at every opportunity and my husband is mostly at his office and thinks that it is my fault that I cannot communicate with them. I have even heard them complaining about me to other people behind my back. Sometimes I feel like killing myself. All this pressure is very difficult to bear. I have tried really hard to please them but they just cannot stand me. It seems that they had chosen one of their friends to marry my husband to, but he chose me and that is my sin. What can I do in these circumstances?